Self Love & Growth ✶

Oftentimes, we take on other people’s words and energies, we let them project their own insecurities onto us and believe that we are what they say we are, or we simply live life through childhood conditioning or limiting beliefs we put on ourselves through social expectations of how we should be, rather than how we feel we need to be, and that’s okay, it happens more than we may know, but I learned the hardest way possible that no matter how much you try to suppress or press pause on the uncomfortable feeling of growth, it will creep up- either by choice, or it will be forced upon you. Whether that be outgrowing old habits and ways of viewing the world and how you choose to live in it, or outgrowing people, relationships, jobs, places and situations, it will happen eventually, because we are supposed to change.

We are not meant to stay the same person we were five, two or even one year ago, we are designed to pivot, learn, fuck up, grow up and evolve…I knew in order for me to change my life and the situations and people I used to attract many years ago, I would first have to heal parts of me that I didn’t love; the past mistakes I had made needed forgiveness, the young girl that lost her way through grief at a young age needed a hug, and the woman I was becoming, needed guidance. This is where the highest amount of growth happens, and when people say it’s uncomfortable, you best believe it.

With change often comes a whole new set of boundaries and self love/self worth because we no longer will tolerate or entertain people or situations that hinder our growth journey, so don’t be shocked if along the way you lose ‘friends”, leave your job, move town, state, or even country, and find the people that once had your back, are now the same people that no longer understand you. With this process, please understand that it is not your job to make these people feel comfortable along your journey to self discovery, it is your job to stay kind to others, but respectfully know when ties may need to be cut, or distance needs to be maintained in order to protect your energy and how far you have come, because at the end of the day, it is you who has gone through the trenches to come out the other end, in order to live a life that is in aligned with your highest good- no once else can or will do this for you. ♡